Shallow Teacup Story illustrates one of the situations of the Stage Three - Visualisation of the Creative Conscience experience. Before you go further, feel free to check out the Stage One - Awakening (Sleepwalkers Story and Crystal Focus Workshop), Stage Two - Awareness (Quiet Alone Story and Vivid Frame Journey) and Stage Three - Visualisation (Mindful Drive Story, Wilful Swing Story and Lucid Canvas Journey).
Can anyone, but yourself decide who you really are?
Here we focus on identities project onto you by the outside. How much space does modern busy lifestyle leave for your inner self? In the course of our lives we all endorse multiple roles: we are in turn children, parents, professionals, clients, patients, colleagues, friends... Each role comes with a set of rules, expectations and obligations. We chose some of these roles consciously. Others are imposed onto us by the outside : family, friends, school, work, politics, media.
How long will it take before you start believing it yourself?
Slowly but consistently these role contaminate our self-perception and shape our consciousness. The outside repeatedly hammers into us ideals, values and goals to achieve. In addition, we are shown "success stories" that explain to us how others became successful, rich, popular, etc. We do not even notice these values and goals are NOT our own. Little by little these roles infect our minds and substitute imposed external values to our genuine inner aspirations. Whether you achieve an imposed goal or not, an induced identity brings noting but boredom, disappointment and frustration.
How can you tell the genuine from the imposed?
Your own goals motivate and inspire you. Achieving your goals gives you even more energy. Imposed goals feel like a burden, an obligation even a punishment. They are often presented in the guise of fashion and prestige. They make you feel uneasy. Imposed goals force you to prove something to yourself and to others. Imposed goals serve to improve someone else's wellbeing. Imposed goals are supported by "success stories" which are often a result of exceptional circumstances and cannot be reproduced. Your mind finds multiple "logical" and "practical" reasons to pursue imposed goals, but your Inner-Self shouts a big NO! Do not let yourself be influenced by others, trust your gut feeling!
Reject The Unwanted
The objective here is to produce an exaggerated, almost caricatural cinematic visualisation of an unwanted identity or goal. The resulting image is a vivid reminder of what you are NOT. The posture, facial expression and clothing style are the antithesis of your own self-vision pushed to the extreme. By exaggerating these features in a cinematic vision a line is drawn between the genuine inner-self and the projections of others. The unwanted identity is thus dissociated from your Inner-Self, you get it "locked", "trapped" in the image. You can now stop worrying about it, turn the page and focus on what truly matters to you.
Set Your Goals Yourself
A simple rule to tell your genuine goals from imposed ones: If you have to make an effort to convince yourself to do something - it is not yours! If a goal is meant for you, you will not have to convince yourself of anything. Do not ask yourself how happy you will be after you will have reached the goal. The happiness must be here and now whilst you are moving towards your goal. If a goal seems attractive, but the path to it feels like a burden - it is not your goal.